[KS] Re: gynecologists

[Dr. John Caruso Jr.]

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There are a number of medical procedures  that are often stressful for
mother and child as doctors and midwives struggle between balancing a
natural event and medical safety.

I agree unnecessary pain should be avoided  but the procedures you described
are more indicative of the comparative status of Korean women then they are
of devaluing motherhood or failing to love children in Korea.

Given your negative experiences with a Korean OBGYN, in which country (other
than Korea) will your wife give birth?

John

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From: "Henny Savenije" <adam&eve at henny-savenije.demon.nl>
To: "korean-studies at mailbase.ac.uk" <korean-studies at iic.edu>
Sent: Tuesday, August 29, 2000 7:38 AM
Subject: gynecologists


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> My wife is due in a couple of weeks and we found out a few curious facts
> about gynecologists. First of all we have a hard time finding one, who
> allows us to stay during the birth. We went to one, who didn't even
allowed
> me to stay during the internal investigation. Being the stubborn Dutchman
I
> am, of course I stayed. Pay in mind that in Holland it's still customary
> that children are born at home and there are not many mothers who would
> like to do that differently. A midwife comes to your house and with the
> density of hospitals, in case something appears to be life endangering,
> they can go to the hospital very soon.
>
> First of all I was surprised that a cloth was hanging down so we couldn't
> see what he was doing. Then the internal examination did hurt her a lot.
> This is her second child and we never experienced anything like that
before.
>
> The closer the delivery comes the stranger things we hear. The hands of
the
> women are bound during the delivery (mandatory), they have to walk, to the
> delivery table as the child almost comes out, the vaginal cut is
obligatory
> and after the delivery she HAS to walk back to another room and bed,
>   just imagine the pain after your vagina has been cut? I am a man, but I
> had an operation in a similar region and I know it hurts like hell.
>
> It is advised not to take a shower for at least 5 days, others mention a
> period of three weeks. Also it is advised NOT to brush your teeth during a
> couple of weeks. The hepatitis injection is mandatory and they still slap
> the baby on the bottom. The mother and baby are separated immediately.
>
> You get medicine to urinate and defecate also mandatory, also the shaving
> of the pubic hair is mandatory.
>
> I think this is a rude way to enter the world as a new world citizen and I
> think it's especially stressful for the mother, but also for the child.
Who
> said that Koreans are very fond of children and value mothers?
>
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